Make Her Orgasm By Knowing What She Wants

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The best way to give a girl an orgasm and really impress a girl is to give her oral sex. You probably already knew this, but in case you were still a little reluctant to believe me here are some hard facts that will change your life (and hers).

A recent study showed that only about 70% of women actually find intercourse pleasurable. These 70% also stated that intercourse alone only gave them an orgasm once in every four or five times. Whereas 82% of these women rated cunnilingus as the number one sex act for enjoyment and reached an orgasm 4 out of 5 times. For the non-mathematically minded men out there here is the summary...

Cunnilingus will make her orgasm.

Another study showed that a little over 90% of women orgasm if their partners spend 20 or so minutes on foreplay and oral sex. Read that sentence again.

Still not convinced? Are you serious? Well OK, here is some more info just to make sure you get the point. The pleasure women experience in oral sex is far greater than for a man. This is due to the number of nerve endings in a woman's clitoris, around eight thousand, making it way more sensitive than a man's penis. 'Hang on! Why is it so hard to make a girl orgasm then?' I hear you ask. Well its not. Its just that 98% of men have no idea what to do. They treat their woman like a glorified masturbation tool and fall asleep thinking they are the man. Sure you might kiss and cuddle her but a woman is hard wired to give and give to her man if she loves him. A woman speaks indirectly, and men speak directly. She may be hinting that sex for her isn't as fun as it use to be, but as men we can't hear it because its not spelled out on a big neon sign with arrows pointing to a large diagram of what she is actually saying. So just take it as gospel. Women like oral sex. For physical and emotional reasons. Sex for a woman is generally letting her self be taken over by a man, and while many women love that, it's nice to be the center of attention for a change. If you really want to get a girl to like you, spend some time on her needs.

OK, so how do I do it?

Well rule number one: Don't go straight for the clitoris. Build up to it, take your time. Kiss her on her legs and belly gently kissing and using your tongue to stimulate the skin around her vagina. Hopefully you will have already spent a considerable amount of time getting her in the mood by kissing and slowly undressing her. (I told you to read that sentence twice!) Then move to her outer and inner labia and then around her clitoris, especially at the ten o'clock and two o'clock positions above her clitoris, as these areas are also very sensitive to stimulation. Then after some time when she is really shivering with delight begin you homestretch effort on her clitoris. Spending time around it as well, to give some variety. Too much stimulation can ruin an orgasm, much like if a girl is too rough during fellatio for a man. Listen to her and feel her reactions, at this point she will be more than willing to let you know what is working and what she wants more of to make her orgasm.

A fun idea (if she lets you) is to not allow her to undress you. This will peak her interest and most likely let her know what it going to happen. The anticipation will be killing her and most likely lead to a more intense orgasm when you do finally get around to it.

By slowly building up to it you will already be turning her on immensely and letting her mind do a lot of the work. A woman's orgasms are linked directly to how she feels. If her mind is racing with thoughts of what its going to be like with your tongue licking her clitoris, and given that there are over 8000 nerve endings all screaming out for attention, what do you think is going to happen when you finally do get there?

There are many different books and sites giving info on specific techniques so I won't go into those here. In fact they are just variations on the same theme. If you really want to make a girl orgasm make her feel like she is your world and build up to it. A trick I like to use is to make a playful hint at dinner that I can't wait to get her home because there's something I'd like to do to her and let her mind wander all evening as to what it might be. When we get home we are generally both naked within the first five minutes.