Better Sex and a Hotter Sexual Fantasy Life: Tips for Having the Sex That You Have Dreamt About

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One question that many guys wonder about is how to get their woman to experiment with some of the more exciting and naughty fantasies that they fantasize about. Recent research from the University of Berkeley shows that most people are fantastically sexual beings, willing to experiment with a lot of naughty fantasies, they just need to be turned-on enough and approached in the right way. One question that many guys wonder about is how to get their woman to experiment with some of the more exciting and naughty fantasies that they fantasize about. Recent research from the University of Berkeley shows that most people are fantastically sexual beings, willing to experiment with a lot of naughty fantasies, they just need to be turned-on enough and approached in the right way.

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Could you enjoy having sex with someone you hated? Would it be fun to tie-up a sexual partner? Yep, the students that signed up for some recent experiments at Berkeley University were asked some pretty interesting questions. These students were part of a fascinating experiment about how people's values and sexual preferences changed when they were in a more sexually excited state. The exciting news is what they discovered and its impact on people's sex lives and living the sexual fantasies you have always dreamed about.

The Mind During Sexual Fantasy

All of this comes from a fun bit of research done by Ariely and Loewenstein. These two mavericks tests were completely comprehensive, covering everything from basic experimentation (Would you have sex with a 40-year old?) up to the more interesting stuff (The researchers asked questions about everything from anal sex to spanking). They then asked the same questions after the person had become more sexually excited. No matter what exciting fantasy was being asked about, people were far more likely to practice things in 'the heat of the moment' that they would never practice when they weren't turned-on.

Having Better Sex

While this is a fascinating discovery, the meaning for guys is a little bigger than they probably realize. A common mistake that many guys make is to think that they can just ask a woman about her sexual fantasies in a completely non-erotic environment and expect an honest response (I overheard a couple discussing it in a cafe once in the same way most people would talk about their shopping!). Instead what guys should be doing is making an environment that is sexual and exciting, then testing to see what turns her on when she is turned on. This will give you a far more accurate view of what sexy things she is really into. Trust me, guys are always amazed at how sexual their girls really are.

One thing that is really important is that all men understand these two sides to their women. On one hand you have the woman that you introduce to your boss or take to romantic spots; on the other a really sensual person who loves intimacy and pleasure. The key thing is to make an environment that allows both of you to be as sexual as possible and also gives you the freedom to experiment in a non-judgmental way. Once you can create that, you will be amazed at how turned-on she will get and the amazing sex life that both of you will enjoy.