Understanding Men: Silence Is Golden

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I once heard that in an average day, women speak 5 times as many words as men do. I don't know the source, but there will be a lot of men out there who would agree with me.

Does this problem sound typical to you?

The woman tries to "get through" to the man. The man stonewalls and blocks the woman off. He doesn't want to hear what she has to say. It seems like he doesn't care about their relationship.

If there's anything that's important about you understanding men, it's that we like being spoken to, but not "over-spoken" to. If you say something to us once, unless we ask you to repeat it, you can assume that we've heard it. If you tell us over and over, that communicates to us that you think that we're ignoring you, when we really are putting effort into doing what you ask us to do.

The woman cares a lot about the relationship. That's the only reason that she would be so vocal towards her man. The man doesn't see much problem with the relationship; he thinks that she's making a big issue out of the whole thing.

Us guys are just like that. We're stubborn and think we know everything. We know we don't, but the pride that we're right is more important than actually being right.

We hear what you're trying to say, so it does get slightly annoying when you go ahead and say it again over and over.

If we're not listening to you, it's understandable if you have to tell us again and again, but if we're doing what we can and you're simply not recognizing that, then you're simply blowing hot air.

Us guys respect you ladies a lot. If you respect our desire for peace and quiet, we'll make sure whatever it is you want us to do gets done. We might even - god forbid - start a conversation with you!

We just figure that if you're doing most of the talking, then we don't have to talk so much then, now do we? I'm not trying to be a smart aleck, but when my married friends talk to me about their communication problems, the single most recurrent issue is that the man doesn't seem to be listening to his wife, when really it's the wife assuming that the man isn't listening to her if he doesn't appear to be responding.

Understanding men and why we don't appear to be listening is an issue that really gets blown out of proportion. Remember ladies, say it once, make sure we've heard it and leave it at that. Anymore and we see it as a loss of respect for us.