Understanding Men: Protect Us

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Here is something that you'll never read in any magazine or relationship help book. Understanding men is hard sometimes and this is one of those times. Did you know that as much as we like to think that we can provide for you and protect you, we also want and need your protection as well?

Despite guys' attempts to be all macho and strong, we do also want to be nurtured. Most guys do have a mother growing up and whether we like it or not, we try to find women who are similar to our mothers, in the sense that they could nurture us anyway.

I was once lying in bed with my girlfriend. It was time for me to leave and my girlfriend whispered to me, "you know, if you leave my house tonight and you get mugged, I'll come out and beat up those thugs."

Now, my girlfriend is 5 foot something. She's not that tall, nor that strong. But having her just say that, I couldn't help but feel touched. It was nice to know that she was looking out for me as much as I was looking out for her.

It goes back to the whole equal value concept. Relationships are all about equal give and take. If there's an imbalance too far in either person's direction, it can't work out in the long term.

If you think about it, this is also where the whole being able to cook for the man ideology comes into as well. Women who are good in the kitchen are like our mother, the ones who typically were good in the kitchen. This also includes washing and cleaning, etc.

There was this one time when my ex's mother was ill. She had a sore back and couldn't do the chores, nor go out to the supermarket to do her grocery shopping. When I called my ex that night, she told me what had happened.

She told me she spent the entire day doing the ironing, the cleaning and the grocery shopping and for some reason, I felt a rush of pride at the time, like I was proud that she was my girlfriend. She thought it was weird, but now I know that it was just because I realised she would be a good partner in years to come, since she could look after and protect her mother so well.

Understanding men can be difficult sometimes and realizing that we want your protection might take some getting used to. However, I can guarantee that if you put the time into understanding this concept, your man will love you more than ever.