Understanding Men: Initiative

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Understanding men and why we're into women with initiative is a pretty straight forward idea. Not to be sexist, but in general, men have been traditionally the ones to take initiative and be the leaders. In a day and age where more and more women are being independent, men still have that sort of expectation in many places around the world.

In general though, a girl with initiative is attractive due to the whole confidence thing. It's no secret that confidence is the universal factor of attraction. We can't help but be attracted to people who are confident.

Of course, it's hard to just "be" confident. Initiative is usually the first step to confidence. This is how my girlfriend showed her initiative and how I responded to it...

That same day that I went to her house on my birthday, she proved to me that she was confident, despite not seeming like that sort of girl.

When I left, she took my hand and led me out to the driveway, where her parents couldn't see. When I was going in for the hug, she stood up on her tiptoes and kissed me deeply.

Did I mention that she hadn't kissed before?

I drew her into my body with my hands and embraced her while we kissed. I was VERY interested in her after that and I thought it was a pretty decent present. The day wasn't wasted after all.

Even just going out to eat and things like that, it's good to show that you're confident. There's an issue where the guy always has to pay. Not with me and my girl. She pulls out her purse and pays for the meal at times. It reinforces the feeling that there's mutual respect and that we're on par.

It makes me appreciate her all the more and shows me that she does value me. Of course, I'd take the initiative most times and pay for the meal! It's all part of being a gentleman.

For women who find that understanding men is a troublesome task, just remember that with regards to initiative, regardless of the gender, it's an attractive trait. It shows that you're bold. It shows that you have confidence and that you know what you want out of life.

For women who aren't used to showing initiative, all I can tell you to do is to start small. Don't worry about demanding this and that, if your man usually does something for you, do it yourself instead and show him that you do have what it takes to be independent. He won't be able to help but feel attracted to you as a result.