Online Dating Tips for Men: Dos, Donts and No Ways!

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The internet is a wondrous thing. You can find the answer to just about any question that pops into your head. You can also meet new people. You can meet, fall in love and have a relationship with someone that you've met online.

This is exciting...and a little risky too.

After all, anyone can easily pretend that he or she is somebody vastly different than what that person really is just by creating a profile and assuming an identity. This is possible in face-to-face situations too, but more difficult.

The anonymity that the internet provides can be a boost to those who might feel somewhat self-conscious or shy. It can also be an opportunity for dishonesty and disreputable behaviors to occur.

I'm not trying to tell you that an online relationship is a bad idea, but I do urge you to be extremely cautious if you're already in one or are considering entering one.

Be wise.

While an online relationship is certainly possible, it's in no way ideal. If you're looking for a partner and you think you've scoured your community (maybe even your whole city) for your perfect match with no luck, I encourage you to try again.

Try to identify what might be standing in the way of you attracting the kind of woman you're looking for. Perhaps you're so particular, you're discounting plenty of great women before you've even gotten to know them. Maybe you have an expectation that the kind of woman you want would "never" go for you.

Look for the blocks you have and then start making some changes. Do what you can to be more of a match to the kind of woman (and relationship) you want.

Okay guys, if you do want to try an online relationship, use common sense. Here are a few Do's, Don'ts and No Ways to keep in mind...

Do be clear with yourself about what kind of online relationship you want (and what you're open to).
If you just want to play around and have fun, be honest with yourself about that. Then, be honest with the women you meet online so that everyone's expectations are known.

If, on the other hand, you're looking for a more serious and committed relationship experience, acknowledge that to yourself. Be upfront about that. You can do this in ways that don't rush things or put pressure on anybody.

Don't agree to things that you aren't actually okay with.
There are all sorts of ways that people get together intimately online. Know your comfort zone and know how flexible you are with your comfort zone. If you get into a situation that crosses the line for you, respect that and don't continue.

Do be honest about who and what you are.
It may be tempting to claim some things about yourself that simply aren't true as a way to stand out and impress women. This will backfire the majority of the time, unless you merely want to hook up relatively anonymously and then move on.

If creating a lasting and connected online relationship is your goal, be honest about who and what you are. Make the most of your positive attributes and focus in on what you're good at. Let your unique and interesting self come through, but be sure to be genuine and real.

Don't make promises you don't intend to keep.
It can be easy to tell a woman that you won't chat (or interact in other ways) with any other woman and then turn around and do just that. Again, if quick and meaningless hookups are what you're after, this is probably not going to be a problem-- except for the women who will be hurt as a result, of course.

Think about a request before you agree to it and be sure that you are completely on board with what is being asked of you. If it comes to commitment or anything else, it's important that you are only saying "Yes" when you truly mean "Yes."

Trust is more difficult to build on the internet. Don't sabotage things by making promises that you don't intend to (or can't) keep.

Do create clear agreements with the person (or people) you're online dating right from the start.
When you find a woman you are attracted to and with whom you resonate, be willing to create some agreements. Right from the start, have the expectations out on the table and make agreements to ensure you two are "on the same page."

Perhaps you create agreements about the level of interaction you'll each have with others. Maybe you'll make agreements about how often you'll contact one another and what the current limits are when it comes to intimacy.

The whole idea of agreements might sound cold and business-like. They don't have to be. They can be a way to avoid misunderstanding and conflict because you both know what to expect.

No Way, don't give out ANY financial or sensitive information about yourself.
It doesn't matter how intimate you two have become online and how certain you are that she is your soul mate, don't give her your social security number, your bank account or credit card numbers or any other financial or sensitive information.

There is really no legitimate need for your online partner to have this information about you.

At some point, you might want to exchange home addresses so that you can send physical letters in the mail. This is fine, but I suggest that you double check her identity and make sure she's a real person first. You might do this by doing a Google search for her. Check social networking sites to learn more about her (if you haven't already done so).

Later, you can tell her that you've done this and you can encourage her to do this about you too. The more information you can gather to let you know that she's a real person (and is really the person she says she is), the more you can start to build trust.

No Way, don't promise or send money to your online date or partner, no matter how dire her circumstances may be.
This can sound harsh, but unless you are 100% certain that she is who she claims to be and that she is telling you the absolute truth, it's unwise to send money.

If you feel like your online relationship has reached a point where you two want to meet in person, this is great. Make sure that you have thoroughly researched her to know she is a real person and that she is really is THIS person. Get creative in thinking up ways that the two of you could earn the money you each need to meet face to face. Let her be responsible for her own finances.

Is there still a chance that you'll be lied to or taken for the proverbial ride? Yes. But do whatever you can to double check if you choose to go this route in finding a mate.